How To Regain Self-esteem After A Breakup

It can be painful when a relationship ends. In this article, we therefore give you some tips on how to regain self-esteem after a breakup.

If it was a long or toxic relationship  or if it was not both parties who agreed on the breakup, it is likely that your self-esteem may have been affected. You need time to mourn so you can get upstairs again.

Tips for regaining self-esteem after a breakup

First of all , it is important to understand what self-esteem is, as this is a word you may hear often. Psychology dictionaries often define self-esteem as the assessment we make of ourselves.

In other words, self-esteem includes all the perceptions, feelings, thoughts, and evaluations we constantly submit to. Some studies indicate that:

If you are struggling with low self-esteem, it can be almost impossible to be stable on an emotional level, as the first step to achieving this is to accept yourself. 

This is how you know if a breakup has affected your self-esteem

When a relationship ends, you may end up in a situation where you experience a lot of emotional pain. However, this does not have to mean an end to anything else in your life. It is also important to assess whether it is just a break in the relationship or whether it is a final breakup.

If it’s a final breakup, keep in mind that all the love you need is already inside yourself. However, people tend to look for it elsewhere, and this is one of the biggest mistakes one can make after a breakup with a partner.

Dr. Jill Weber says it is normal to feel confused, sad or angry while grieving over the loss of the relationship. But when the relationship ends, there is no need to punish or blame oneself. Most people have tried to go through situations like these, but these situations do not define you.

Even if the person is no longer part of your social circle, life goes on and you have to learn from it and continue on the right path and keep developing yourself. If you feel that some of the following traits describe you, even just a little bit, then the breakup is affecting your life and it’s time to make changes.

Signs of low self-esteem

• One feels that life has lost all its meaning because of the person who has left one.
• You feel ugly when you look at yourself in the mirror, and you even think that others will never ever fall in love with you.

• Perhaps one thinks that the person who left one was perfect and that he or she was the only right person in the world.
• You compare your ex-boyfriend with all the other potential partners you meet.
• You become indifferent to your appearance and self-care. You also do not feel enthusiastic about anything  and you lose all motivation. You are no longer interested in the activities you used to enjoy.
• One feels a kind of pain that does not make one think clearly.
• Maybe you experience a lot of guilt. One might think that if one had acted differently in certain situations, the person would still be by one’s side.

If you feel that you can identify with some of the above things, then you need to understand that you too can learn to enjoy being alone. During this time you can really get to know yourself better and thereby you can learn to love yourself.

How to regain self-esteem

There is no magic formula to recovering from a breakup with a partner. It’s something that takes time. But the results are incredible. The love you will be able to have for yourself after this experience will be much greater. To begin with, it will benefit you to follow these tips:

• Let go and let yourself go through all the stages of grief after a breakup, instead of trying to suppress your emotions. It’s better to tell someone you trust how you feel so you do not let it all pile up.

• Do not try to avoid the problem. Let yourself experience your emotions and review them. This is the best way you can turn the pain and sores into opportunities to start over.
• After this process, you will be the only main character in your life.
• Once you have been through these experiences, you will understand that your life does not depend on that person. Your life should not be about that person either. You are two different individuals who can live out your full potential individually.
• Establish new routines and drop old habits that you had with that person.

The most important thing to regain self-esteem

• Start looking inward. The joy is inside yourself and not inside someone else’s life. Nurturing yourself with self-love is a crucial step towards being able to see your full worth and you will learn to understand why you do not deserve to be in a toxic relationship.

• Avoid wearing yourself down by talking about this person all the time. It is important to get rid of some of your frustration. But then you need to focus on yourself and be the center of your own world.
• Take care of yourself, love yourself, make something out of your appearance. Look at yourself in the mirror and realize how beautiful you are. 
• You need to take care of your physical and mental health. Seek help from a psychologist if you would like to be accompanied while you heal. In addition, you should return to the activities you loved before.
• Surround yourself with positive things, forget the sentimental and sad songs. Attract joy wherever you go.

If you love and value yourself, you will realize that there are parts of you that you did not even know about. If you are able to regain self-esteem, there are many new things you will be able to achieve.