Loneliness Can Hurt, But The Pain Gives Strength

Loneliness and the thought of being alone can be painful. Suddenly you have no one to accompany you on the difficult path you are walking. Why is everyone gone? Why has life left you alone?

Loneliness is looked down upon and considered a failure. But sometimes we have no choice but to experience it, especially when we have been through a bad spelling. Even if we see it as a great enemy, it can in fact be one of our greatest blessings. Because loneliness  hurts but heals.

Loneliness helps you heal your wounds

Sometimes life invites you to be alone so you can look  inward and realize what to focus on now. Sometimes we go wild along the way. The suffering becomes too much in our daily lives. In the long run, this will not go away. The time will come when we can no longer take it. Many believe that our problems are outside of us. However, the solution is on the inside.

Loneliness is an excellent opportunity to reconnect ourselves. It helps us listen to ourselves and discover how we can improve our lives. Do not be afraid of your loneliness. Especially if you think “why me” or “I do not deserve this.”

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Instead, give yourself some time. Think about who you are, treat yourself well and love yourself. In this way, we will discover that no one can solve what we are going through. No one, except ourselves.

Loneliness invites you to become independent

Being alone is an excellent invitation to all  those who suffer from some dependence on others,   such as dependence on their partner or even other forms of relationships.

We can not spend our whole lives, so we welcome people who will end up disappointing us and doing us a lot of harm. It is important that we learn to be responsible and that we realize that   being good today is not dependent on the emotional state of others,   but rather on ourselves. Only in this way will we be able to cope with our emotions, have balance and feel good without always having to look outside ourselves. Because we are the only ones responsible for how we feel, and if we let others seize this power, then we get things really wrong.

We are not dependent on anyone. We are afraid of loneliness, but sometimes it is good to be aware of this. People come and go, they hurt you, others leave scars. But  the person who will never give up on us is inside our self.

Being alone hurts

Even if we place loneliness as an opportunity to heal, it is true that being alone will hurt a lot. It will tempt you to go back to return to your comfort zone, but it will not be as easy as before. This will happen because you have taken a big step that, although painful, is very necessary. Loneliness is waiting to give you the opportunity to mature, to grow, to improve yourself.  

Now you know what it means to be responsible for your own happiness, and wow! It’s not that easy, is it? When you focus on yourself, you start to see that you deserve things, and you start to feel bad about seeing this as selfish, but that’s what you need. Always be looking to make sure someone does not leave you, to always please others, to do things because you think you will end up alone if you do not, is a serious mistake.

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You are important and you deserve to think about yourself. It’s time to stop sacrificing so much time thinking about how to be better for others so that they accept you and love you. Put the  victim mentality behind you and hold on to your own life. You have the power and the will to do it. Do not waste any more time.