Unconscious Relationships Will Destroy You
Have you ever lost yourself in unconscious relationships? We are talking about those who are caught and who do not move backwards, but also do not move forwards.
They are conditions that destroy one outside and inside.
This kind of bond is the end of one because it pulls one down into a state where one feels that one cannot move. It is as if everything in one’s life stops while waiting for something that will never happen.
One does not realize how important it is to be assertive in these moments. One needs to be aware of what one deserves, to value oneself and not to be afraid to let go of the other person.
But why are we often so afraid to do this?
To accept unconscious relationships
No one forces one to lose oneself in a relationship like this. But somehow one ends up accepting a situation that drags one further and further down until it is impossible to get up again.
Do you want to know what kind of unconscious conditions exist?
Are we a couple, or are we friends?
Fear and bad experiences in the past sometimes deter one from speaking openly in relationships. This raises doubts and an ignorance about how to act or move forward.
It’s not about stickers, but about knowing what’s going on so you can act on it.
I can not live without you
Emotional addiction is one of the most serious problems in today’s world.
If one is anxiously looking for a person who can give one the feeling of not being alone and one needs a person to make one happy, then emotional addiction may be the problem.
I do not want to be with you anymore, but I can not break the habit and leave you
Many relationships last for a long time despite the fact that the couple does not want to be together anymore.
This happens when one gets used to being together and is afraid of breaking free. This situation prevents one from moving forward.
Conditions that make one unconscious
The three situations above are all real and more common than you first think. The first, however, is the most important to be aware of.
There is nothing worse in a relationship, no matter what type it is, than not knowing what it is.
If you do not know if you are a couple or just friends, then how do you act? Communication is very important. But in this kind of unconscious relationship, one of the two parties is scared.
Maybe they have been hurt in the past, or maybe they just have different intentions.
Unfortunately, one of the parties will end up being hurt if one has expectations that probably will not be met because they are based on a “false” relationship.
The second situation is one of the most dangerous. One’s happiness ends up being the other person’s burden. It is perhaps one of the most difficult relationships to get out of.
The problem is not the relationship, but one’s way of relating to his partner. It is an addiction that is rooted in emotional deficiencies, fears and traumas.
Being dependent on another person is the worst thing that can happen. One will not move on and one will be lost in a destructive relationship that tries to meet one’s needs.
Sometimes we confuse love with need.
Learn to let go
All of these relationships have one thing in common: a fear of letting go.
This even happens in relationships where there is doubt about what the relationship is because there is a one-sided hope that it will turn into something bigger.
But this situation happens especially in long-term relationships, where habits deter one from making one’s own decisions and going in different directions.
The most damaging part of unconscious relationships, however, is that you do not allow yourself to find someone with whom you can actually be happy.
It’s hard to let go, and as you get older, it gets even harder. The fear of being alone and never finding someone else makes one content with what one has.
Have you ever been in an unconscious relationship?
